Messages from movies. I see a lot of movies. Looking into a small looking glass into other lives, other splices of time, other worlds in general. Think maybe I've seen enough over the years to become a movie critic. (kind of joking but not really) Anyway, one thing strikes me about many movies is this, and of course this is my opinion. A common message in movies is: if you don't finish something you're a loser. If you don't have a good job you're a loser. If you're not where you're supposed to be, with a house, kids, etc. by a certain age you're a loser. Or if you're not one of those, you're an aberration of some sort (referring to how movies portray people). In order to be acceptable to others (in the movies) you need to be somewhere in life with either a good job or a great home or a big family. And if you're not, then in the movies it's still acceptable if maybe the person is an artist. Having a special talent that will get discovered but since it was undiscovered thus far, the person is messed up emotionally or otherwise. Being a writer and hoping for an agent and publisher for a book. Being a musician and hoping for that record label contract. Being a dancer and hoping for that big break. Being beautiful and exploited by everyone until you find that kind person to take you away from it all. Or that you make that big break into movies or modeling.
The movies make it magical and all so easy in the movies that yes, someone gets discovered. Yes, someone has that big job and makes lots of money. Yes, someone does something monumental. Yes, the big time cold career person straightens out and becomes totally humanitarian and kind. Things can be magical and wished for and they suddenly appear.
Or another scenario: maybe the person is a lonely lawyer or otherwise a full time career person that makes a lot of money and shields themselves from others. Male and or female. And then they find the love of their life that touches them emotionally and the two of them wander off into the sunset happily ever after, and they become warm, kind and sincere.
The reason we love movies is that most of us don't have the same lives as the movies project. These are the lives that we wish for; that we want. Money, fame, recognition, to be loved and adored by all. Having the perfect family that gets along. Of course, there are lots of movie topics that are not addressed here. But one thing in common with all of these is this: in my opinion a lot of movies give you the message that you have to be exceptional in some way to be accepted. You have to have that special talent or that special job, or those special looks, or a big family that needs looking after and is successfully looked after. Or you have to do something unusual or monumental for others. Or maybe you are the sensitive artist that hasn't been discovered yet, but guess what, you get that big break. Yet, many times movies say outwardly that yes, it's ok not to have anything going for oneself. But underneath it all, the message is still the same. Everything goes into the looking glass.
Watching or listening to movies are like looking through the looking glass into other worlds. Similar to dreaming. Like when we dream, we might dream about some great accomplishment that we made, or great place to visit, if we remember our dreams. Looking into other worlds. Having special powers to fly or to command a spaceship. Having that big break into fame or fortune that comes to them so easily.
What I don't think movies address enough is the average person. What I mean by that is someone that has a regular life that doesn't get the big break, that doesn't get the big job or big house, or get adored by everyone. What about the artist or writer that never gets that big break? Or people that are not adored by all, and never are adored by all. The people that really never finish what they start. What's wrong with that? Nothing. What's wrong with having a family that doesn't get along? Nothing. Most everyone has a family that has challenges of some sort. Of course the movies may portray families that are dysfunctional but usually somehow that resolves and miraculously things straighten out. What about the person that blends into the background? The almost invisible to society person. This person is not of interest to the movies in a leading role unless this invisible person etc. gets into some kind of unusual situation that changes them, and suddenly, they finish what they start, they land that great job, etc. Or the movies will portray this person in a less than flattering light.
Real life is on this side of the looking glass. Real life has a lot of averageness or mundaneness to it. Real life doesn't mean that we get discovered or get that big break. There are many talented people that never get discovered at all. There's many of us that don't finish what we start. There's many of us that don't look like supermodels. Of course some movies nowadays will address the subject of looks. But then in the movies the person still accomplishes something unusual or monumental. It's human nature to dream about traveling to exotic places, having that great job or big break. Or having that unusual experience whatever it is. It's exciting. Or we come into great riches, wealth or fame. In the movies, everything goes into the looking glass. The movies draw you in and when you get to the other side, it's sparkling and another universe altogether. There's nothing wrong with dreaming about being on the other side of the looking glass. Real life is what it is: on this side of the looking glass. We don't need to land that incredible job, be a supermodel or change the entire world. We don't need to get that recording contract or have our book published to be respected. We just are what we are.